I need to stop thinking of myself so much and pay way more attention to the people around me. I want to do more for my friends and family. Where do I start?

1. I need to listen more. I'm so into ....this is going to be hard for me.

2.I need to do more for my family the last few years I've been kinda on strike for lacck of a better word.

3. I stopped doing everyone's laundry 10 years ago and  made everone for themselves rule. and cooking daily meals stopped 2 years ago.
       I pretty much dropped  down  1/3 of houshold chores for the last 2-3 years! needles to say I have a ton of shit to do around here.

I'm really going to try to do more and I'm going to try even harder not to feel " poor me"

I'm going to work my 8 hours a day
get my butt to the ymca 1-2 hours a day
walk the dog 
cook a healthy meal most week nights
keep our house up
grocery shop for us